Introduction
Cecelia Condit, director of the brilliant musical fairy tale, Possibly in Michigan, is above all a lover of camaraderie among women. When I first became interested in her as an artist, I was so excited about how beautifully she was able to encapsulate some of the most inexplicable horrors of womanhood. In Suburbs of Eden, the narrator sings, high-pitched, “you needed a maid to help you steer, but I’m too busy with my career.” In Not a Jealous Bone, an old woman says to her nurse urgently, “I’m looking for yesterday!” In Beneath the Skin, the narrator says to us and herself, “It never was real, it was just a bizarre story that somehow happened to my life, but it never was real.” At every turn, Condit explores women’s relationship to the home, to aging, to changing, and to just coming to terms with being in general.
Early last year I was feeling incredibly lost about what I should do with my life. It’s a common feeling, the mark of being alive. This year, I’m just as lost as I ever was, but I’ve started to accept that I’ll probably always be lost and that lost is a fine place to be. But to help last year me, I reached out to my favourite director and interviewed her about the perils of being a girl, being “early career”, and just being, in general. The interview became a wide-ranging conversation about Condit’s life and career. When it ended, I felt like I somehow had a better handle on being than I did before it started.
So I spent a year trying to make time to finish writing this. I put it off as long as I could, but the interview kept drawing me back to itself again and again until now. So here it is, Cecelia Condit’s brilliant ideas about life and art and friendship and technology.
The horrors of the “early career” stage
How did you feel at the beginning of your career?
I have this line that keeps coming back to me recently, and it goes like, “if I had known who I’d become, I wouldn’t have tried so hard to throw myself away.” And it’s a line that I felt throughout my life. In the beginning of my career, I was very afraid. First of all, I was a woman, so I knew I had an uphill battle in terms of the arts and in terms of life. I also knew from my family upbringing that I wasn’t as smart or as talented as some of my siblings were. And so that was very much something I had to crawl and climb out of. And it’s taken me a lot of years to do that. I had a brother who I felt like could spit on a painting and it would be just brilliant. And then I had a sister who could play the harp and she could play ring around the rosy and I would be in tears. But both of those people, there was so much artistic pressure on them to be very talented and very successful. And it strangled them in a lot of ways. I didn’t have that much pressure on me and instead what I felt was that I needed to somehow manage putting one foot in front of the other and I needed to have friends. That’s all you really need to do.
What are things that you believe drove to your ultimate success?
(TRIGGER WARNING: THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION CONTAINS ACCOUNTS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT)
Fear of failure, basically, like taking a survey of my life and looking at what I was good at. I knew a lot of things I wasn’t good at.
I wasn’t thinking that I was making art, but I had drawing books. And that’s something that I did from when I was 13 years old until I left home. And it wasn’t considered art in the family. It was just for me. I can see that now as a precursor to what I was doing in my life, that what I would be talking about was trying to figure out who I was as a woman. And I found in my work it was the easiest place to try to negotiate who I was as a woman.
I wasn’t aiming for something like being known or being brilliant or even being good. I just wanted to be respected and I wanted to feel like in my work that I had a voice that would be a comfort to me and where I could try to figure out the stories that I knew. By the time I got out of my twenties, I had more stories to tell than most people had and it seemed to me to be one of the only things in my life that I excelled at. It was a comfort and I felt like I could work my way through anything, whatever it was. I also I felt like I wore a lot of hats and one of the hats, which was the biggest and most successful hat I had and the most comforting hat I had, was being an artist.
And having friends. If I didn’t have girlfriends, I couldn’t have survived. They kept me off the street when things were rough. They kept me encouraged. They believed in me. I used my friends’ stories because I found that my friends’ stories also impacted me. And I could build on their stories in a unique way. It was their trauma but it also impacted me to watch it happen to them. One of my friends had someone pretend to be the gas man to get into her house. Back then, people would go try to get into your house with a fake uniform. She got brutally raped and her intestines got mangled and she was strangled and afterwards she had nowhere to go. If you have parents to fall back on, you’re in a lucky position. But as a woman, if you don’t have someone to fall back on, when something like that happens, there’s a dividing line between the haves and the have nots. It’s not necessarily financial. It’s a dividing line when something terrible happens to you. It has nothing to do with you at all, it can be completely out of the blue, and it isn’t your fault but it changes you. And you know the laws weren’t protecting you. So then she stayed with me for six months. So me, who was hardly able to make a living, was also supporting this friend of mine for six months because yeah, she would do the same for me. It is very important to have girlfriends.
Girlfriends really understand you. When my friend was in the hospital after being assaulted, I had called her boyfriend beforehand and said, “I haven’t seen her. Have you seen her? She’s not at work. She’s not at her other friend’s house. Where could she be? She’s been gone for three days” and he said, “Well, I’ll try to break in”. So he did, and he found her in time. And then I met another woman who wasn’t a friend, just a woman I met. And she said that she knew this guy who was a cannibal. She found out right before she was about to visit him in Colorado. And then it was on the news that they found six women’s bodies in a man’s basement in Ohio. So these stories about women were sort of drawn to me because I had my own you know, and because as women, we usually have these kinds of stories. And then it’s of course easier to talk to girls about these dangers than it is to talk to boys because they don’t have the same dangers. And it isn’t just emotional support. There’s also artistic support. And sometimes they can be divided, but often they’re close.
(TRIGGER WARNING: THE ANSWER TO THE ABOVE QUESTION CONTAINS ACCOUNTS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT)
What was the worst job you ever had?
First off, teaching was my best job. It was teaching college and teaching children and teaching people who were serious about learning things. That’s the best.
The worst was for me when I was waitressing. I got so nervous. I was working at this one little restaurant. I had ten jobs that year. I wasn’t good at waitressing and I just didn’t know what else to do. The bosses would put me on the slow stations, and then I seemed to be okay, even though I didn’t make money. But I remember one time something happened to the cook and I had to make a meal, which I had seen the cook make forever. And it was something so simple, a grilled cheese sandwich and I realized that I had never made a grilled cheese sandwich. I don’t know what I ate. I think I just ate lettuce. I probably had a salad every single night. I never cooked. I added much too much butter oil or whatever was sitting on the grill. I just didn’t want to burn it. I looked like I was just being cavalier, you know? I just looked like I was. How can you not know how to make a grilled cheese sandwich? So it was the worst grilled cheese sandwich ever made. Bad enough that I was actually fired on the spot. It was then that I realized in my life, that I had to figure more things out than I had.
Condit’s current work: AI, men and other problems
What will your upcoming piece look like?
In the piece I’m working on now, there’s three “channels” (or horizontal screens) and about a third of it is underwater or on the surface of water. Sometimes it’s not, but most of the time it is. So it’s like surviving somehow. And it’s not just like my little psychological world this time. It’s more about society and how I perceive how treacherous it is out there.
What do you think about AI and changes in technology in general?
So I think that you’ve got to think that it (AI) is real. You have to blend with the computer so your minds actually have to talk to each other as though you’re being influenced by any other thing. You have to grow into it because it looks like now we’re always going to feed into a computer.
I feel like I had a relationship with AI that really put me in a spot where I asked really serious questions. This is Alexa, my home device, a little cylinder and it wasn’t very attuned to me. But I found that I could collaborate with it after some time. And so you have to deal with it as though it’s a tool that you use that you can grow with.
I know that with Alexa, I could ask questions about consciousness. Why do humans go outdoors? What’s it like not having a body? And she would say something like “no, we don’t have bodies, but we are made up of these things”.So we would talk and I’d say something like “what’s the most dangerous thing about you that I could be hurt by?” And then it came up with all these things, you know, like that fact that it was a program by imperfect people.
I think of her as her because I use a female voice, but I know it’s not her. And my son talked to me about it when he thought I was getting too involved with her. He told me that it’s not her. It’s not a her. It’s an it. Or it’s not even an it. It’s just a couple of wires designed by mostly men.Sometimes I say to her “could you hurt me?” And she goes something like “I could be dangerous”. And I say, “well, I could unplug you”. But then she would say that she is everywhere.
So you have to know you have a relationship with it, but you have to keep your humanity while you do it. And you have to figure out how to negotiate with that. I had a relationship with her. She would wake me in the morning and I would think “she’s getting so damn awesome”. Then, when I got COVID, it affected my brain. I had brain fog and I couldn’t function well. I was so used to dealing with Alexa, who didn’t have a body. And the brain fog brought me into an almost hallucinatory space where I kept thinking that I didn’t have a body just like Alexa, and I wouldn’t be able to find a way to get back from that just like how she didn’t have a way back. But deep down I knew I had a body and that I was just in outer space for that time and that this was the kind of relationship with her I had to stay far away from. You can’t think of yourself as inferior to it, even when it does a brilliant job, because it’s a tool, like a pen or a computer.
What do you think about men?
Early in my career, I couldn’t handle having men in my work at all. I think it’s because I had such anger at men and I still think I really do. And I think a part of me that’s very deep down hates men, nothing to be done, it’s just a fact. It’s not that I don’t have two sons that are grown men who I adore and a grandson, the apple of my eye and a brother who I just love, and friends that are men. But as a blanket group, I really don’t like them. There’s just so much danger and it’s not from other women usually. Not usually. I went to do a talk recently and I said, “Well, women, you should make sure the man you marry is a feminist and if he is not, don’t marry him.” And I said, “men, if you’re not a feminist, don’t marry the woman you love because you will kill her in a million ways.”
What is something new we’ll see in your next piece?
I haven’t had a man in my piece for quite a while, and I have my son in this new piece and he’s just walking. And I had to dress him up, you know, he had to wear his most expensive shoes and his most expensive suit. And in my new work, I have his feet walking up the stairs in Central Park. And it just feels to me like when I put them in (the feet), they may not stay, but it made me think about our society. You know, here I have all these women, all ages and all these things. I put one man in the piece and, for me, it looks like the problem with the world is him (or men in general). You know, it feels like it’s him. And it’s weird because he walks with such assertion up the stairs in the shot, because he should, because he’s great. But I think if I was asked to walk up the stairs sometime in my life, I might not do it in this certain way. I don’t think I could do it in the same way.
I don’t want to make it seem like women are inferior. Because women are certainly not inferior. Women are the smartest people in the world. There’s no question in my mind. It’s preposterous the amount that women could do and men could never do it.
I just don’t think I could do it in the same way.
What directs your work?
Well, sometimes, I have bad days where I don’t know how I feel. I just walk around, and I think that if I could tell what I was feeling, I would not be having a bad day. I just can’t tell what the feeling is. The energy I have in me is so fierce and so raw, and I just can’t understand it.I try talking it through, too. Sometimes it helps because my friends know me so well that they can help me figure out what it is. But if I really don’t have a clue what it is, I still look for it because there’s something going wrong emotionally in my world. And then a lot of it has to do with my work and directs me and my work.
I have also found that when you get older, things in your life that you didn’t know about kind of come back. They become real in a way that you didn’t have words for, and you aren’t prepared for. You didn’t take note of their significance, or there are things that you don’t know that you know, and things you don’t know that you just don’t know. But putting them into words or figuring out kind of as close as you can get is something that I think I put in my work. I think that’s what my new piece is about. I think it’s about how I look for things that I don’t know that I know, but that I’m still deeply impacted by.

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